RADISTRYA

change is a word that can make a difference

when you step out of your comfort zone and start to do things differently, then people will say that you are changing, being something that is not-so-you, and in the process you might be praised or get negative feedbacks from people around you.

I alwas thought that there are things that can change and there are that can’t

for instance, what can never be changed is the fact that men will be weak enough to be seduced by beautiful ladies in appearance, I say beautiful because they are all the same when it comes to sweet talkings of a delightful-featured woman, weak at the knees

and men can change when he finally understands that a-not-so-beautiful woman turns out that she is lovely in the inside, compared to her not-so-delightful physique

but enough about men and their common weakness

i was browsing the internet, at some social media, looking at old friends, wondering how are they doing and all that, and I stumbled upon a friend of mine which I have not met for 3 years now, and it got me thinking that the next time i meet her, she would’ve been really different than the last time i met her, totally different

now, to tell you the truth, i know that change is possible, but to some people i become stubborn and say that actually it isn’t, why?

why say that change is impossible when i know it isn’t

because, when it comes to people, sometimes their traits cannot change, what changes might be appearance, or ways of thinking, but to me, their personality cannot change..

like a convict guilty of murder because he just likes to see blood spurted out of someone’s head

i don’t believe that after 5 years of solitude he would change, maybe it is in his basic instinct that he likes what he does and even though he might say that he has regretted all the bad things he has done, there is no guarantee that he won’t do it again

and when i see myself, well i change in appearance, my hair is longer, i’m taller, maybe not thinner, and i gain new perspective of thinking, but my personality, my traits, they don’t change

i believe that we are designed by our DNA to have certain traits and as long as it doesn’t harm you or anyone else, then it won’t change (and doesn’t have to)

but it doesn’t mean to not improve yourself day by day

we all have good and bad behaviour, sometimes you’re impatient and most of the time you’re patient, the improvement goes by tuning out the “impantient” part and turn on the “patient” part much louder

all in all, i’m not saying that change is impossible, it is

we are all balanced in our personalities, our vices and virtues, we just got to be smart which to throw out and which to keep

and, well.. probably if you managed to keep the good ones, people will say you’ve changed, and you have! but keep in mind it doesn’t mean that you’re a better person, you’re still the same you but well maintained in a good manner